Memoirs and Love

The Mirror of Hate

The Mirror of Hate

I have heard a powerful quote from my friend Mort Melman sensei (by Friedrich Nietzsche) that always struck me deeply: “You are what you hate.” At first, the words felt unsettling, even unfair. How could I be anything like the very things I stand against? The thought lingered, though, and like all profound truths, it […]

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Start with compassion

I had a conversation recently that stuck with me. Someone close to me was venting—angry about their friend, frustrated by the choices that person was making. You could feel the tension in their voice, the kind of frustration that comes from loving someone but not knowing how to reach them anymore. Then they looked at […]