This book was the hardest to write—because it was written from a place most of us try to avoid.
When I’m Gone is not a farewell letter. It’s a doorway. A deeply personal, quietly honest book written as if I were already on the other side of life, speaking to those I love. It’s the book I hope my children, my friends, my readers will one day read and say, “He told the truth. He didn’t leave without saying the things that mattered.”
The Voice of the Unspoken
We live so much of life waiting. Waiting for the right moment. Waiting to be heard. Waiting to forgive—or to be forgiven. And far too often, that moment never comes.
This book is my attempt to stop waiting.
Every chapter is written like a letter. Not to tie up life in a neat bow, but to unfold it—to hold space for:
- Regret
- Grace
- Unspoken love
- Generational wounds
- The things we carry, and the things we never got to say
It’s not a book of answers. It’s a book of presence.
The Structure
The chapters weave between memories, reflections, prayers, and unfinished conversations. Some are addressed to my children. Some to my younger self. Some to God. Others are simply the thoughts that rise when we slow down long enough to listen to what the soul has been whispering all along.
This book doesn’t require linear reading. It invites you to sit with what resonates, and let the rest wait for a later day.
Why I Wrote It
Like many fathers, I didn’t always know how to say what I felt. I often thought, “One day I’ll explain it all.” But life has a way of rushing us—and sometimes, robbing us of that day.
I didn’t want to leave those words unsaid.
So I wrote them now.
Not because I expect to be gone soon, but because we never know. And because love deserves clarity.
Who This Book Is For
- For the person grieving someone they never really got to know
- For the child who needed to hear, “You mattered. I’m sorry. I see you.”
- For the man or woman who wants to live more intentionally, knowing tomorrow is not promised
- For those who never got the closure they were waiting for—and now need to create it for themselves
A Legacy of Presence
When I’m Gone isn’t about closure.
It’s about connection.
It’s about choosing, while we still can, to speak the truth in love—to release shame, to pass along grace, to leave a trail of light, not confusion.
It’s a book I hope lives on long after me—not because of its words, but because of the space it opens up in others.
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When I’m Gone
Genre: Memoir / Letters & Legacy
Written as if from the other side, this book speaks the words many leave unsaid.
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